Well, my Smack Ass 2.0 jeans are in the wash as we speak and I am trying to decide what to wear for tomorrow for date night! Eeeek! What a wonderful feeling. I am so excited. In other news the scale is moving back and forth between 199 and 200, but I can live with that. It always takes a while for things to really stick. I have been crazy tight lately, which is odd. It seems as though as soon as I made an appointment for a fill at the end of the month my band decided to shape up again. So now I am so uncertain about needing a fill. Guess I will see what the month brings and decide as the date gets closer.
So here's the next thing, I don't think Josh knows I have had weight loss surgery and I am a little nervous about telling him. But when you have dinner dates, sometimes your "odd" eating behaviors kinda stick out like a sore thumb. So I do plan on telling him my story but I am a little freaked about telling him just how much weight I have really lost. Which is weird 'cause I have pretty much shared it with a million other people, but to tell him makes me a little nervous. Will he judge me for being so fat? Will he think it's great that I have made that kind of progress? Will he be afraid that I will be fat again. Yeah, all these dumb things running through my head. I know this is all irrational thought, but sometimes it's hard to turn off that negative nelly attitude. Guess I will just feel things out tomorrow and see what all I choose to share. I don't have to spill all my secrets in one night. Can't wait for tomorrow!
I probably wouldn't tell him unless he mentions in conversation your eating habits. I would keep it to myself until I knew for sure where the realtionship was headed. I mean plenty of people have have laproscopic surgery for all different kinds of things so it's not something that someone would just assume you've had WLS. If that makes any sense!
ReplyDeleteHave fun on your date :)
When you do tell him, make it a real casual statement (probably best when you're out to eat/etc) and move along to the next topic. If you make it a big deal, then he will too. Just make it a random fact about you and move on. Not sure if that makes sense. Can't wait to hear about the date! :)
ReplyDeleteYay! Have a great time tomorrow!
ReplyDeleteMy two cents are: If it feels right say something. If it does not then don't.
ReplyDeleteI have told people that I Just don't eat much. I have told them that I have a nervous stomach. I have told them I have a band and sometimes I have said nothing. Its all good :)
The important part is to have a GREAT time!
xxxooo
My thoughts are, if he mentions your eating habits, or God forbid you get stuck, then tell him. If all goes well, I think I would wait it out. I hope you have a terrific time!
ReplyDeleteDon't mention it while eating because he will watch you then. When I get nervous, I get stuck. Mention it to him in casual conversation when the time seems right. I would probably wait it out a bit though. A little early to drop all of that in his lap.... I hope that you have a wonderful time!
ReplyDeleteIt's a valid question..."when to tell". I've been talking to someone who lives far away and we haven't "shared a meal" yet...I have no idea how to bring this up. I'm sorta just waiting to see how things go when we meet in person.
ReplyDeleteI hope you have a great time tonight!
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